Ugh. My cog psych professor said such an ableist bullshit comment in class today, by way of a joke. He was talking about how you can survive missing an entire lobe of your brain, and then something about having someone in a study he did who had a lobe missing but was otherwise fine, and objecting to this person being classified in the study as ‘healthy’ because they “Only had 7/8 lobes- they were 86% of a human”
Um excuse me? If you are still living, you are not less of a human. If someone is born without or loses a leg you don’t say they are only a partial human. Hell, if someone is circumcised or cuts their hair or donates a kidney or is particularly short, they are not a partial human. Humanity is not defined by having perfectly intact and average amounts of body parts.
As in, started the show and am now caught up. It’s making me uncomfortably self-reflective.
Sooo unnecessarily awkward and stressful. Can someone explain the finer points of hookup etiquette and valentine’s day? Like, if you’re in what appears to be or possibly/probably maybe is a long-term hookup, which is very explicitly non-exclusive (though you are, at last check, the only person they are currently hooking up with), but you are sort of friends and sort of affectionate, but definitely don’t want a committed relationship or anything of that sort, WHAT DO YOU DO ABOUT VALENTINE’S DAY?
Like, I just don’t even know.
Do you a) Do absolutely nothing don’t even see them
b) See them very briefly in passing, wish them a happy valentine’s day and give them a kiss (chocolate and/or otherwise), and then leave
c) Invite them over for sexy-times, but make no allusion to valentine’s day
d) Invite them over for sexy-times and give them a chocolate, making some casual joke about how it’s valentine’s day
Do you talk about it in advance (aka this weekend), or just hope something happens naturally/spontaneously? There’s just so many choices and so much potential for misinterpretation and awkwardness….